confidence

david · Joined: 04 Apr 2011 Posts: 2

Self-confidence does not necessarily imply 'self-belief' or a belief in one's ability to succeed. For instance, one may be inept at a particular sport or activity, but remain 'confident' in one's demeanor, simply because one does not place a great deal of emphasis on the outcome of the activity. The key element to self-confidence is, therefore, an acceptance of the myriad consequences of a particular situation, whether they are good or bad. When one does not dwell on negative consequences one can be more 'self-confident' because one is worrying far less about failure or (more accurately) the disapproval of others following potential failure.

confidence

thecactus · Joined: 07 Mar 2011 Posts: 3196 Location: Northern Ireland

D B Sweeney · Posted: Thu Apr 28, 2011 10:38 pm Post subject:

I'm not confident that I understood that post David.

DB

ALEX LOCKWOOD · Joined: 20 Feb 2009 Posts: 238 Location: UNITED KINGDOM

I think I got where you were coming from, David, to begin with.... . I wasn't very good at sport. But I 'had confidence' in other subjects, like English and History. Lessons I was good at. Amateur Dramatics helps build it.

Acceptance of 'good' and 'bad' situations could be called 'being pragmatic'. Or just very laidback. But you're right. Don't dwell on 'negative' things, and the 'positive' ones may look more....positive! That's not to say you should ignore things you're bad at. Because neglecting them might make things worse. Yipes Shocked

SHADOWDANCER · Joined: 26 May 2011 Posts: 61 Location: UK

Have Confidence. Have Faith. Especially in Yourself, that's what I say. Because if you don't Believe in Yourself, no-one else will... . Cool

bitterbuck1 · Posted: Fri May 27, 2011 8:16 pm Post subject:

All very good advice. Wink